Moving in Together is a Big Deal

Moving in Together is a Big Deal

In any relationship, moving in together is a huge step.  It is a strong sign of commitment though it can change the dynamics of the relationship.  Just remember not to rush into anything and to take it slowly when moving in together.  Here are some things to consider when moving in with the person you are dating.

Deciding When to Moving In

There is no easy way to decide when to move in together.  Some couples move in together right away while others live separately for years and years.  Certainly some couples decide to live apart until they are married.  Whatever you decide is right for you is what you should do.  Just don’t let your partner pressure you into moving in.  As long as you take the time to really get to know each other and find out what each other is like at home, you can likely make it work.

Which Place to Choose

Once you decide to move in with your partner, the next step is to think about where you will live.  Will you live in your place, in your partner’s place, or will you find a new place?  If you do decide that one of you will moving into the other’s person’s home, you both will need to make an effort to make it a shared space.  The person moving in must be allowed to add their personal touch to the space.  The easiest way to do that is to relocate to a whole new place together.

Let’s Talk About Money

Even though you may be deeply in love and excited to moving in together, at some point the practical, unromantic topic of money is going to come up.  There are some very practical questions you’ll need to ask each other such as:

•    Who will pay the mortgage or rent?
•    Who will be responsible for the bills?
•    Will you share a bank account?
•    Will you have a separate household account?
•    Will you both contribute the same amount of money?

While this is not an exhaustive list of questions you need to ask each other, it is a good start.  Although it may be difficult to discuss money, you definitely need to.  You may find that the two of you have very different views on the matter.  Always be fair and practical when discussing matters of money before moving in.

Setting Boundaries

Once you moving in with your partner, the days of always looking your best and being the belle of the ball are gone.  Your partner will learn to see the real you, and you need to be prepared for it.  This can be hard, and both of you will have to deal with it.  In order to keep the romance alive, set boundaries.  Communicate often and share with each other what you are comfortable with.  Moving in together is going to be hard work but it is well worth it – arguments, dirty socks, and all.