Whether your kids are moving out to go to college or to start a life on their own, it is a big step. It can be an exciting and scary time for the kids, but also a tough transition for Mom and Dad. Though many parents look forward to the day their children move out on their own, there is always a little sense of loss that comes with that ‘empty nest’.
So, what are some tips for parents that need a little help adjusting to the fact that their kids have moved away? Read on to find out more.
- Stop planning your kids’ futures – As a parent, you’ve probably played a key role in planning day-to-day activities for your kids. Now is the time to stop. Let them make lists of what they need for the move. Just let them know you’re here to help.
- Give advice without being pushy – Ask questions without any prejudgment and that will let you keep the lines of communication open. If you disagree with their decision, offer an alternative without pushing.
- Stay in touch – Though you will miss the kids when they move, don’t become an overbearing parent that calls everyday. Establish what you expect as far as communication and stick to it – but be flexible to your child’s needs.
- Give yourself some time – Once the kids move out, you go from a full-time job to something a little different. You’ll have a lot more time on your hands. Make a list of things you want to do so you don’t feel lost once the kids leave.
- Re-establish your relationship – If you are married or have a partner, now is the time to reconnect. You’ll have more time for each other – take a vacation or plan a social date together. Take up a new hobby
Jon Huser